Asking to define the relationship is about creating the conditions for intimacy.
But just because we have been telling ourselves the same story for a long time, doesn't mean we can't change the narrative. We can always change the story.
To say you’re unhappy is a bold, brave, and vulnerable share. I see you.
There’s a quote that says “the people who trigger us to feel negative emotions are messengers. They are messengers for unhealed parts of our being”. They are also our teachers, and class is always in session.
Someone basically tells us, “No it’s not you. I don’t choose to love you or be loved by you. I do not choose to build a life with you or procreate with you”.
Vulnerability ask you to soften your ego so we can see your soul
someone's "fear of commitment" might be better understood as a misunderstanding of what's being asked of them in an intimate relationship. Think about it.
For all of you who are still putting yourself out there and risking the hurt that comes with opening up; I am in awe of you. It takes incredible courage to keep your heart open in a world that keeps giving you reasons
I realized that the loneliness I was feeling in my relationships wasn’t caused because of our differences; it was the fact that the feeling of not feeling seen, heard, and appreciated for those differences.
By placing boundaries, we become more conscious. We learn what serves us and what does not. We learn how we actually feel.