How the Signs Were Growing, Faster Than You Noticed;

Sometimes you have to just be like “I deserve so much better than that” and move on.
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Dear fellow bloggers and Friends,

Do not underestimate the amount of confidence and growth it takes to be able to say, “I’m not happy here”. Friends, this one gave me chills. I said this during a conversation with a good friend and it made me emotional. This is an ooof for the pleasers, the compliant ones, the fly-under-the radar folks. This goes out to the people who never learned that they could express themselves without being confronted with a threat, an ending, a loss of love, loss of worthiness, or loss of connection. This is an acknowledgment to the people who have been conditioned to pretend, to say they’re happy and fine, even when they are not.

It takes growth and confidence to get to a place where you can say, “I’m unhappy here”. Here in the relationship, the job, the event, the ____ you fill in the blank. To share vulnerably, to speak a truth, even when it’s hard knowing that it might disrupt things, make someone upset, or even end a relationship.

It took me a while to realize that the life I was living in 2021 was not the life I wanted for myself. Looking back, I didn’t realize how unhappy I was with my situation. I was scared to let anyone in. I didn’t want to come face to face with reality.. until I was forced too.. I’m in a place where I can say that I am genuinely content with how my life is. I’m at peace with the past and I am looking forward to staying present while planning for the future I want. However, there are days where I question, where I look back and feel sorrow, loneliness, and that familiar pain. The work never stops. Recognizing that you are unhappy is just the first step of many. The work to commit to change is a conscious one, you must make every day.

So, this is an acknowledgment piece for the people who have arrived at this place, for those still working it out. To say you’re unhappy is a bold, brave, and vulnerable share. I see you.

Until next time,

Much love

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