By placing boundaries, we become more conscious. We learn what serves us and what does not. We learn how we actually feel.
We understand they may have gone through hard things, but where they are is still important.
Retrospective storytelling gives us a chance to make-sense of the stories that are being told to us and they give us time to reflect on how they affect our relationships..
That is why, for Christ’s sake, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.