Someone basically tells us, “No it’s not you. I don’t choose to love you or be loved by you. I do not choose to build a life with you or procreate with you”.
I realized that the loneliness I was feeling in my relationships wasn’t caused because of our differences; it was the fact that the feeling of not feeling seen, heard, and appreciated for those differences.
By placing boundaries, we become more conscious. We learn what serves us and what does not. We learn how we actually feel.
We understand they may have gone through hard things, but where they are is still important.
I didn’t want to accept that the life I thought I was going to have in 2020 was no longer in my reach. I didn’t want to face the music that this is life as I know it right now. Whether that life came with happy, sad, angry, or anxious emotions I had to learn how to hold all of them with compassion and patience not only for myself but for those around me.